Our girls share a bedroom. As many of my parenting decision this one was just something I always felt was right. Obviously we only have one bedroom for them to share so it was partly a rational decision too. But I felt that as long as they are small and great friends they would be happier and feel safer in one bedroom. So I never even questioned it.
Jakavatko teillä lapset huoneen? Olisi kiva kuulla vähän teidän kokemuksianne siitä mikä järjestelyssä toimii ja mikä ei. Meille se on jotenkin ollut aina itsestään selvyys, että lapset ovat samassa huoneessa kun he ovat vielä pieniä ja tulevat erinomaisesti toimeen keskenään. Olen jopa välillä miettinyt, että lapset olisivat hyvin voineet nukkua pienessä parisängyssä koska he tykkäävät käpertyä jonkun kainaloon iltaisin. Nyt he ovat hieman toivoneet kerrossänkyä ja olenkin katsellut kivoja vaihtoehtoja välillä sivusilmällä. Nämä eivät kuitenkaan ole tällä hetkellä ajankohtaisia päätöksiä. Alla englanniksi hieman pohditaa jaetusta huoneesta…
But then I was asked how we do it and if I have great tips for kids sharing a room. For us it has worked really well so far. The girls are very close at age with under 2 years of age difference and they get along very well so only recently has Cotton Candy started to ask if she could have her own room. The reason for it is her being a neat person and her little sister not so keen on cleaning the room. But other than that they are doing great in there. At night they go to bed at the same time and it´s actually Cotton Candy, who is older, that falls asleep first practically every night. Bubble Gum has a tendency to procrastinate when it comes to falling asleep and she tries all the tricks in the world ( we all know or have heard of) to get out of sleeping. But I think I remember her big sister being just like that at her age so we trust it passes ( and no, we do not cater to her every need of water and bananas after bed time!). But her sister is probably so used to Bubble Gum sleeping in the same room that her little shenanigans do not wake Cotton Candy up. I was a bit at loss trying to think for tips on sharing a room ( as I never really thought about it that much or the alternative really) so I asked both my friends on FaceBook and a very dear friend who has kids also sharing rooms. So I´m sharing their insight here too.
A very good point my friend had that we actually had not thought so much about, but will in the future, is giving them some personal space in the shared room. Like your own shelf. My kids pretty much share everything. Obviously they have their own belongings , dolls and such but they are so used to sharing, the lines of personal belongings in that room are probably quite blurry to them. She said that sharing a room encourages also sharing other things but it´s good to have that personal space, my little shelf or my bed.
She also had the wonderful point that I loved and enjoy witnessing at nights… the girls sharing their thoughts and talking together and coming up with great little plans and ideas. I´m sure as they grow older this part will get even better and I would be sad to separate them to different rooms until they are knocking on pre teen doors and need privacy amongst that personal space.
Another friend pointed out that traditionally families have shared rooms for practical reasons ( like the cold in the Northern countries) and surely the lack of space when people lived in far smaller apartments. And they still share in many cultures but the Western individuality has come to play it´s part in this and now we feel a baby needs to be moved to her own room as soon as possible etc. ( I´m fundamentally a co-sleeper at heart and still love occasionally waking up in a bed that is full of little feet and warm tummies and rosy cheeks)
I know that what works in one family surely may not work in another. Some kids may be close in age but quarrel a lot or have very different sleeping schedules. We let the kids come to our bed if they wake up in the middle of the night or early morning and often do wake up in the morning with an extra person sleeping happily between us. But neither of us even wakes up to bring her back to her own room and she does not keep us awake. Some kids kick and turn or the parents are not as sound sleepers. I believe whatever is the best sleeping arrangement for you is the right one in your case. There is no one right answer to this. And as you can see I did not have any really helpful tips about sharing a room if it´s just for a few weeks during a holiday or so as for us it works without thinking about it too much.
Do your kids share a room? Could you share your helpful tips!
All photos of great shared bedrooms from Restoration Hardware.