by Sofia   -   in Random

I did not mean to go missing for a whole week but then as they say, life happened. There was work ( a trip to Chicago that I loved) and then there was just the important things like holding a few months old baby ( no, not mine) and holding some bigger babies ( yes mine). Then suddenly it was time to head out to the island and I ended up lying around in the sun being very busy trying to not lift a finger. And there I was lying still, very still like the sea that looked like a mirror of beautiful soft blues of the sky and some cotton candy clouds scattered here and there but just barely. And I thought that that is exactly what my life was supposed to be about right then. Just now. 


I have this nagging feeling all the time that the summer is ending and the school year and the hobbies start. Usually I´m very eager to head on to Fall, I love Fall. But this year there are just too many open ended questions about it that I feel at loss. I love planning ahead and knowing where I´m headed and when the element of that stability is missing it makes me feel very restless. I´m also learning that I am not very good at dealing with disappointment when things don´t go as I had hoped or planned and it makes me feel anxious. Both the fact and the issue. So lying very still staring at the sea just feels like a very good place to be right now. I don´t know about you, but sometimes I feel very grown up and in charge and sometimes like everything in my life just happened but I´m still a child or at least a very young adult and not thinking about things makes them go away. Even throwing tantrums ( small scale and mostly just in my head) feels like a good way to handle things sometimes.

But instead I try to breath in and breath out. Looking at the birds gliding past, laughing as they go I wonder if they feel happy and free. Or perhaps they too are yearning for more. More time, more warmth, more moments that stand still. And I wonder how when nothing is wrong and your life is filled with love on top of love and you have made it your life´s purpose to hold on to the people you love and to cherish them then something so trivial can throw you in for a spin. 


In spite of all of the disappointment of barely reaching my dreams and then seeing them glide away when my fingertips were already touching them I have had a wonderful time this past week. In spite of myself disliking myself for feeling so naive and childish I still have felt like a great parent this week. And the weekend was amazing. The hottest Finnish summer weather one can hope for, the prettiest sunsets and lounging around on the island listening to the cousins giggle their hearts out, eating ice-cream on a dock by the shop boat. Oh and mornings without an alarm clock.

Now more of the stillness so I can hear myself think ” It was not meant to be. Just let it go.”



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7 comments on “ Still „
Karkki, on July 16, 2018

I have had a terribly year. It has been filled with worry, concern and discomfort. I have to accept that some of My dreams & hopes will never become of reality. There are things which will impact my family’s life forever.

In the midst of grayness my friend send me some white lily’s with this quote, I will share with you. “In end only three things matter, how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you”. Even though my worry is very much present, Ican now think “This is how it was meant to be”

Hugs & delightful start of this week!

Sofia, on July 19, 2018

Karkki, I´m really sorry for what ever you may have been going through! Life can sometimes throw us of the past we dreamed and quite far from it. It truly is a sign of our strength how gracefully we accept the detour and carry ourselves through troubling times. I´m certain your troubles are in tenfold to my silly annoyances. I wish you strength and happiness.

Sofia, on July 19, 2018

And Karkki, I will cherish that quote. Truly! What a lovely lovely gift.

Ita, on July 16, 2018

Very good and applicable post to me as well.
Things don’t always go as planned and breathing through them, though not always easy, is the best way to go. A girl can still dream though 🙂

Sofia, on July 19, 2018

Ita, indeed she can. And as we know it will turn out as it was meant to in the end. Just the journey sometimes troubles me, or mostly just the fact that I´m letting things get under my skin and have a hard time accepting it´s just best to let it go.

Katja, on July 18, 2018

Kaunis kirjoitus! Voimia sinulle, mikä ikinä onkin elämässäsi nyt vaikeaa. Paljon sydämiä tähän. Itselleni yksi suurimmista haaveiden romuttumisesta ja pettymyksestä oli keskenmeno, mutta kaikesta siitä surusta seurasi lopulta myös hyvääkin.

Sofia, on July 19, 2018

Katja, eikä edes ole mitään niin dramaattista tai surullista. Mutta ehkä lähinnä itsetutkiskelua vaativaa. Joskus ärsyttää oman mielen vajaavaisuus kun luulee olevansa jo elämäntilanteessa jossa voisi olla henkisesti joidenkin asioiden yläpuolella.

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