Aug
17

Positively negative

by Sofia   -   in Random

Do you know the kind of people that drain the life out of you with their negativity? The ones that come to a party, or a lunch date or to work and always start with how tired, unsatisfied, irritated or plain old bored of life they are. I´m not talking about people who sometimes have a bad day and feel like you are the kind of person who can cheer them up. I´m not talking about people who now and then vent about an issue or another. I´m not talking about people who sometimes feel the need to talk about another person because something is wrong or they did something that annoyed them. We all are that person sometimes. But I´m talking about the kind of people who are always leaning at least a tad to the negative radar. And often find fault in almost any situation or circumstance. I really struggle to keep those people in my life. I know it´s a whole different thing having real troubles or worries and that is not what I mean. I mean the “eat away from your positivity” kind of people.

I have noticed that some often seem super perky and happy on social media but when you see them in real life they just always start with something to complain about ( there are also those who always complain on social media as well). I sometimes wonder if they even realise it themselves. As we all know a positive mood from another person can change our day for the better. This kind of negativity is also catching. Either we start feeling low ourselves or at the very least we do not feel like being ourselves around these people on a good day as we can hear the eye rolls happening in their heads for thinking a rainy day may actually look so pretty ( just a silly example, you can stop rolling yours!).  

I was wondering how you deal with people who eat away from your mood? Do you just ignore the complaining? Do you try to change their mood for the better? Do you just cut them out of your life? What if they are colleagues and you can´t? 

On the other hand let´s talk about the fine mood we get in to when we meet people who are looking at the bright side of life. Who are enthusiastic about life or what they do. Who find the silver lining in most situations. I love being with these kind of people ( and hope that I am one of them when I´m not dead tired or having a one off bad day). The good mood is so catching. I think a lot of it has to do with being grateful for the little things and enjoying the moment. It´s about getting excited about small stuff ( doesn´t have to be rainy days!). I get so much energy from positive people! You know that person that you talk to on the phone that leaves you feeling all giddy and happy. Or the colleague you always find fun to work with and leave work feeling refreshed and excited. Even if something happens it´s worth a giggle instead of a frown. 

Let´s choose to be that person to each other. It´s ok to have bad days & sad days and larger than life worries are a whole different chapter. But on a daily bases when nothing is actually so wrong in our lives let´s try to enjoy the moment. And pass that mood on!

Aug
10

Sinne ne nyt menivät…

by Sofia   -   in Random

… Koulutielle molemmat lapset. Meillä oppilaat ja paikka olivat entuudestaan tuttuja uudelle ekaluokkalaisellekin joten vaikka kovasti koulun aloitus jännittikin ja siitä juteltiin sängyssä joka ilta viikon verran ennen koulun alkua, niin pihalla jo halailtiin kavereita kesän jälkeen. Ensimmäiset kirjat päällystettiin jo illalla kontaktimuovilla ja ensimmäiset läksytkin tehtiin. Kyllä se oli ihanaa! Ja itseäni ihmetti kuinka vähän tuo päivä tuntui sentimentaaliselta. Olin vain innossa ja ilossa mukanaeläjänä. Moni vanhempi hihkui myös koulun pihalla, että huh, taas selvittiin yhdestä kesästä. Itse en kokenut tätä kesää, enkä muista, että aiempiakaan, erityisen rankkana. Lomat perheen kanssa ovat minusta ihanaa aikaa! Mutta otetaan tämä arki silti avosylin vastaan. Harrastukset alkoivat jo tällä viikolla ja tanssia meillä harrastetaan nyt niin paljon, että meinaa ihan mennä pää sekaisin, että kuka oli missäkin mihinkin aikaan, mutta ehkäpä sekin tasaantuu viikon tai parin päästä kun päästään aikatauluihin kunnolla käsiksi. Olen kyllä niin onnellinen, että vanhemman kohdalla ainakin näyttää eri lajien kokeilun jälkeen siltä, että tanssi oli kuitenkin se rakkain ja tärkein. Itselleni on tietenkin helppoa, että lapsi valitsee saman harrastuksen mikä itsellä on ollut lapsena ja nuorena, koska siinä on helpompi tukea ja auttaa.

Miten teidän  arkenne on pyörähtänyt käyntiin? Osalla alkaakin koulut vasta ensi viikolla, mutta valmistautuminen on varmasti jo käynnissä. Me odottelemme vielä uusia koulureppuja saapuviksi, mutta onneksi pari päivää pärjää vanhoillakin. Mitä nyt toisella on sen verran pieni reppu, ettei sinne mahdu kansio sisään ja toisen repussa on pieni reikä pohjassa. Se ei onneksi vaikuta innostukseen tai menestykseen koulunkäynnissä.

Ihanaa viikonloppua!

Lattemamma

p.s. Kuvankäsittelyohjelma on ihan susi ja takkuilee taas. Mistä johtuen ette nyt saaneet eilen kuvaamiani koulujuttuja kuvitukseksi.

Aug
6

Oh Fall

by Sofia   -   in Random

Who´s excited for Fall? I know I know it´s still summer for one more month and I love it. But as you may well know Fall gets me all giddy and excited. On one hand there is the running around from one hobby to another and supervising home work and playdates and what have you but on the other hand there is the rhythm, the structure and there is obviously pumpkin spice. I mean I love summer, island season, flowery dresses and all that. But I also love my Hunter boots and weekly meal planning, candle light and spicing up my morning latte. I love cozy evenings on the sofa with a cup of tea and some favourite show on a rerun ( Fall always brings out the need to watch Downton Abbey). 

I will miss spending all day long with my girls and not having to wake them up early. I will miss the island when it closes for the season. I will miss warm mornings when you don´t even have to think about a pullover or socks. But I know the time will come for those again too. The uncertainties I had for the Fall luckily faded away and there is now room for planning so I can enjoy my favourite season ( they are all my favourites). 

I noticed that the new season brings anxiety to many so I thought I would list all the great things about Fall to make you feel better.

♥ Pretty umbrellas

♥ Candle light in a darkening night

♥ Pumpkin spice

♥ Cozy dinners

♥ Looking through the windows at warm lights at night whilst on a run

♥ Hot bubble baths after a rainy day

♥ Tea and cashmere socks

♥ Reading a great book with the previous

♥ Your kids stories about school or hobbies or friends

♥ Early breakfasts in candle light

♥ Halloween

♥ Pumpkins

♥ Weekends that feel like weekends

♥ The more structured Fall clothes

♥ Big scarves

♥ First crispy cool mornings

♥ Planning winter vacations and city escapes

♥ Wearing cute hats and beanies

♥ Pretty leaves in oranges, yellows and reds

♥ The impending Christmas at the end of Fall

I´m pretty sure there is a lot more to be excited about but I will stick to these now. I really really wanted to write rainy days but I´m pretty sure they don´t feel so cozy to others so I just stuck to pretty umbrellas. I hope your Fall anxieties melted in to a cozy and warm feeling of taking advantage of the season.